It’s a question many cat owners ask themselves at some point. You head out for work, close the door behind you and picture your cat sitting forlornly on the windowsill. Or perhaps your usually confident feline suddenly seems a little ‘off’ - more vocal, more clingy, or hiding away. It’s natural to wonder whether they’re lonely and whether bringing another cat into the home might help.
But according to Cats Protection’s Regional Behaviourist, Jess Williams, the answer isn’t as simple as it might seem.
“When owners tell us they think their cat seems lonely, it usually comes from a place of love and concern,” Jess says. “But loneliness in cats isn’t the same as it is for humans. Many behaviours that look like loneliness are actually signs of stress, boredom or even a medical issue. Before introducing another cat, it’s important to understand the real cause of the behaviour and make sure any changes will genuinely benefit the cat.”
So before you rush off to adopt a second cat, it’s worth taking a closer look at how our feline friends really experience companionship.
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Do cats actually get lonely?
Despite their often affectionate nature, domestic cats retain strong ties to their wild ancestors. They evolved from the African wildcat - a solitary species that thrives independently - so most pet cats are perfectly comfortable spending time alone.
This doesn’t mean they’re emotionless. Cats can form bonds, and when a companion cat dies, they can show signs that look like grief: wandering the house searching for their friend, vocalising more than usual, or appearing withdrawn. But this is a response to a specific loss, not a general need for social company.
Because cats are naturally independent, it’s easy for us to misinterpret certain behaviours. A cat who meows excessively, scratches furniture or darts around the house in bursts of energy, isn’t necessarily lonely.
More likely, these are signals of boredom, stress, or frustration. In some cases, they may even indicate an underlying medical problem. A trip to the vet should always be the first step when behaviour changes suddenly or dramatically.
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Recognising when your cat is struggling
That said, some cats do find it harder than others to cope with alone time. Signs that your cat may be unsettled when you’re out include persistent meowing, pacing, hiding more frequently, toileting outside the litter tray, or engaging in destructive behaviour.
But because these signs overlap with a number of other issues, including everything from changes in routine to household stress, pinning the blame solely on ‘loneliness’ can lead owners down the wrong path. Accurate understanding is key.
Should you get another cat?
It’s an appealing idea: if your cat seems low, why not bring home a friend? But Cats Protection urges caution.
“Unlike dogs, cats do not instinctively seek out companionship with their own species,” says Jess. “While some cats form close, harmonious relationships, these are the exception rather than the rule, and they are highly individual. A cat who previously lived happily with one feline companion won’t necessarily accept a newcomer.”
And introductions can be tricky, she says. Simply placing two cats together and hoping they’ll bond can result in stress, tension and long‑term conflict. Even relationships that begin well can be disrupted by life changes such as a new baby, a vet visit or a house move.
If you’re genuinely considering another cat, make sure you take things slowly, plan the introduction carefully and seek expert advice. What feels like kindness may end up causing more stress for both animals.
How to help your cat feel more settled
The good news? There are plenty of simple, practical ways to enrich your cat’s daily life without adding another feline into the mix.
- Stick to a routine. Cats feel safest when their world is predictable, so keeping feeding, play and rest times consistent can make a big difference.
- Make time to play. Short, burst‑style sessions with a wand toy or teaser give your cat a chance to burn energy and satisfy their hunting instincts.
- Stimulate their mind. Puzzle feeders and even basic training sessions (yes—cats can be trained!) help keep them mentally sharp and reduce frustration.
- Encourage solo exploration. Tunnels, cardboard boxes, climbing trees and a rotation of toys can turn your home into a feline adventure zone.
- Offer safe outdoor access. If appropriate, a secure garden or cat flap gives your cat sensory enrichment and the chance to explore at their own pace.
And what about dogs - could a cat keep them company?
Some dogs and cats become firm friends, but adopting a cat for the sake of a dog is rarely the right move. Dogs are social animals and can struggle with being left alone, developing separation-related behaviours that need training and behavioural support, not a feline housemate.
And not all dogs are suited to living with cats, particularly those with a strong prey drive. Successful introductions require time, training and safe spaces for the cat.
Whether you share your home with one cat or many, the key is understanding what makes them feel secure, enriched and content. For most cats, that doesn’t require another feline, rather a thoughtful, stimulating home life and an owner who takes the time to interpret their needs.
If you’re ever unsure, a conversation with your vet or a qualified behaviourist can help you make the right choice for your cat.
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